Many years ago, after my first emotionally and physically abusive marriage ended, I jumped into another relationship. It wasn't my brightest moment.
I hadn't healed the emotional trauma of my first marriage and I was vunerable to the first man who appeared to want to protect me.
" I was sadly mistaken, but I learned a valuable lesson."
When I left, " Rob" like my first husband, became frantic and the harrassment began. He made phone calls to my places of employment, telling them that I was horrible person. He called a bomb threat on my parents home. Thankfully, everyone was sympathtic and supportive of the situation.
I was receiving harrassment on both fronts, from my first husband, father of my child and from him. My first husband used our son as a pawn in order to hurt me for leaving him.
However, a few years later, of being on my own and experiencing good friendships with people who saw me for who I was, engaging in relationships with some lovely men, I met the man who would become my husband and father to my second child.
A few years later, he was offered a transfer to the west coast. My oldest son moved with us, eagar to get away from his father. He was 13. At the eleventh hour his father tried to stop that but a good lawyer was our saving grace. Our family boarded a plane to a new life that became a healing for myself and my oldest son. He was far away from his controlling father and could begin to claim his childhood back. We all breathed a sigh of relief.
Fast forward four years and our family moved back east. We had a pet store that we had bought as an investment, from my brother that was part of a franchise. He had been managing it and for various reasons it wasn't doing well financially and I took over managing the store.
Within a month of working there, "Rob" walked by my store. I immediately went into a well of fear. I thought this was ended but apparently I was mistaken. I ran after him and screamed at him to stay away from me and not to come into the store. (probably not my best move) The harrassing began again. During this time, I had begun to meditate and had taken an energy healing course. I had a tool and I was about to find out how powerful it was.
This tool was simply this-send love and light. And so I began to send love and light to him until it became second nature to me. I became very casual about it. Every time I caught a glimpse of him I would send love and light. I didn't put a lot of energy into it, which may be why it took some time to resolve the situation, but it did resolve in the most suprising way.
My lease was up on the store and I made the decision not to renew. I hoisted my Going Out Of Business sign and proceeded to sell off my inventory. Towards the end of that time I came out to my car to find a note on my windshield.
The note was from "Rob". It was an apology for everything that he had done to me and my family. He admitted to being mentally ill and was receiving therapy. He realized the impact of what he had done and wanted me to know. I was in shock-wow-this stuff really works!
And so I write this story to let you know that there is a simple tool that you can use whenever you come up against anything that pushes your buttons. You are not sending your personality's love and light. You are sending love and light from that part of you that is connected to source. You do not need to get in the way or figure out how it will work.
Yes, I have other tools that I use and they are a titch more complex but this one simple tool is powerful. Can you imagine if everyone began to use that everytime they were drawn into the drama of Syria, of the economy, of pollution, abuse to animals and the list goes on and on.
"We, our personality, doesn't always have the answer, but that part of us connected to source knows and with a simple love and light sent, information is being sent energectically with one prime objective-LOVE."
P.S. If you would like guidance with your life and some intuitive coaching to help navigate your traumas and drama please contact me for a free 20 minute consult. As you can see, I have been there done that on the relationship front, including challenges (not the same ones) in my current marriage.